How to have a Dairy Free and Egg Free Birthday Party


We recently drove a VERY long way to be apart of my precious niece’s third birthday party. I asked my sister (because she is my sister- I don’t think I could ever ask anyone else to do this!) if she would have a dairy free and egg free party for her daughter. We didn’t want to travel all that way and endanger SG’s health and also to have her cry. Yes, she cries now when she can’t have what everyone else is eating at a party…she’s just two and doesn’t quite understand why she can’t eat the same cupcakes as everyone else at parties.

My sweet sister said yes to a dairy and egg free party. Here’s how we pulled off a Spider-Man party for a precious three year old little girl. 🙂 Here’s what we did.

I baked dairy free and egg free cupcakes at my house. I didn’t want to risk cross contamination by making them at my mom’s house (our destination.) I made a batch of chocolate and vanilla cupcakes at my house and froze them. We brought them to South Carolina in our cooler. If you’re not traveling and you most likely aren’t, skip the freezing step. Unless, of course, you want to bake these puppies a few weeks in advance. That makes for a less stressful preparation the day of the party!

Thanks Kara for sharing this recipe with me!

Granny’s No Egg Cake/Depression Era Cake
Dry Ingredients:
3 cups flour
2 cups sugar
6 Tablespoons of cocoa (for vanilla cupcakes, omit cocoa)
2 teaspoons baking soda
1 teaspoon salt

Wet Ingredients:
3/4 cup oil (I use canola)
2 Tablespoons vinegar
2 teaspoons vanilla (use 1 Tablespoon vanilla if making vanilla cupcakes)
2 cups cold water

1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees.
2. Put dry ingredients in a mixing bowl and stir with a wooden spoon.
3. Add wet ingredients. Beat well until blended.
4. Line cupcake tin with paper baking cups. Add batter using 1/4 cup measuring cup. Bake approximately 18 minutes, or until a toothpick comes out clean. You can also bake this as a cake. The time will vary. I made a smaller round cake and it took approximately 35 minutes while a much deeper heart cake took closer to an hour.


I use Pillsbury vanilla frosting and Pillsbury chocolate fudge frosting. For the party, we used chocolate fudge frosting and my sister bought some cute Spider-Man picks made especially for cakes and we stuck these in the cupcakes to dress them up a bit. She put them on a stand and decorated the table and it looked FAB! The guests raved about the cupcakes and some even asked for the recipe! Make these. Right now. 🙂

Here are the snacks we had at the party: Oreos, a fresh fruit salad, fresh veggies with Sabra hummus, Ritz crackers, Rold Gold Pretzel Sticks, Lays Kettle Cooked Sea Salt and Cracked Pepper Potato Chips, and lemonade juice boxes for the children.




This was the FIRST birthday party I have taken SG to that I could rest easy and not have to hover over her in fear. Thanks Sissay for being so accommodating and for having a SAFE haven for your little niece, my child.

To all of you mamas out there, food allergy parents or not, you can have a rockin’ and yummy party- DAIRY AND EGG FREE!

My Fears

I’m getting real here with my fears, so please hear my heart. Unless you have a food allergic child, it’s hard to understand. That cheese, butter, milk, and eggs make my heart skip a beat. That cheesy Doritos and milkshakes make me back away and turn the other direction. That a simple question from a two year old noticing other children at the mall eating ice cream can make me want to burst into tears: “Mommy, can I have some ice cream, too?” Can you hear my heart shattering? Into a million little shards?

There is always, at the back of my mind, the what ifs. What if she accidentally grabs a friend’s food? What if someone’s milk spills on her? What if the cheese dip accidentally splashes on her? Will this be the time she stops breathing and needs the Epi-Pen? Will this worry and fear ever end? I know I’m not supposed to worry but be cautious. The Bible tells me not to worry. God is in control and He gave SG to me. I’m her caregiver and have to be her first line of defense until she’s old enough to do it herself.

My prayer right now:
Dear Lord Jesus,
Will you please help me to trust you completely with this? Lord, I know I’m not supposed to worry but this is SO HARD. Please keep SG safe and put a hedge of protection around her. Please heal her of her food allergies, Lord, whether miraculously or her outgrowing them. Help me to remember, whatever Your answer, You are enough. Father God, help me to do the best I can as her mother. Strengthen me. Help me not to feel crazy but to be cautious. I know You are sovereign and I thank You for my precious child. Thank You Lord.

In Jesus Name,

“And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life?”
Luke 12:25

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
Philippians 4:6-7

“Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.”
Matthew 11:28

“Blessed are those whose strength is in you…”
Psalm 84:5

Like I said in Why I Blog, this is me. The real me. Nothing fancy. My fears and life, for all the world to see.

Now you know a little bit more about me. Until next time, my friend.